Hello. My name is Kristin. And I once was a style schizophrenic. One day I would dress like a preppy private school attendee, the next I was 70s peace child. Modern and edgy in all black? Had it covered. Bright and bold? Did that too. Loose? Check. Tight? Check. Dress like a tomboy? Check. Wear the biggest, craziest earrings I could find? Check and check. I had NO idea who I was.
At first I thought it was actually quite fun to reinvent myself everyday. A whole new look for every mood. But then I just started feeling like I was a vapor floating in the fashion wind. No direction. No happy place. No true identity.
Enter: the current fads. The joke goes that I will loudly buck every trend initially (as in declare my hatred), and then be wearing it in three weeks. I was such a pushover! If I saw enough people wearing something in a cute way, I’d give it a try. But still…it wasn’t me.
My closet was full of a hodgepodge of clothes that didn’t go together. Some trends long past their day-in-the-spotlight prime, and others were just long past my loving them. Perhaps I really never did. I bought what was on sale. I bought what I drawn to. But often I’d buy things that needed a little effort to make them look and feel good. “Special needs” clothes I would call them. You know the type: constant adjustments, required unusual undergarments, only went with ONE other thing that I owned, had to suck in my tummy the whole time I had it on… I began to go into my closet to get dressed, daily, and feel like I truly didn’t have anything to wear.
That’s when I started reading fashion blogs that taught me about how to build a remixable wardrobe. What pieces everyone should have. How to make your clothes work for you in a myriad of different ways. And I started being ruthless. If I didn’t LOVE something…it was gone. If I couldn’t wear it at least three different ways for three different looks…it was gone. If it didn’t fit my body comfortably as it stands today…it was gone. If it was old and showing signs of wear (stains, picking, holes, pill balls, fading, shrinking, stretching, etc.)…it was gone. If I had no need for the style in my life right now (for example: business wear-I mean, going to work currently = yoga pants for me)…it was gone.
My closet was shrinking, but my confidence was growing. But still…something was missing. Although my clothes were working together better, I still didn’t feel like I had found my true clothing identity. The soul of my style. I would see something on someone else and love it, but on me it was only “meh” at best. For months and months (maybe even years) I was in search of the perfect chambray shirt – it seemed like such a practical closet staple – but when I finally found the perfect wash, in the perfect size, at the perfect price, and tried it on? I suddenly realized that I was not a chambray shirt kind of person. I looked like someone playing dress up. A wanna be. Who knew?
That was when I had the awakening. I desperately needed to find my style soul. To know the type of clothes that speak about who I am. That I feel completely comfortable in. That present the face that I desire to show to the world. And here is what I’ve found:
+ I love classics: solids, stripes, florals, plaids, polkadots…
+ I love “preppy” – think Ralph Lauren
+ I love fitted/tailored/polished cuts – nothing oversized has ever looked good on my body type
+ I looooooooove cardigans (just call me Mr(s). Rogers)
+ I love jeans
+ I love button ups
+ I love small accents of trend (scarves, shoes, belts)
+ I love tasteful, classic, sophisticated jewelry – specifically in metals
+ I love soft colors – mostly neutral, pastel, and earthy. And when I want a pop of color, I’ll usually go for rich jewel tones
+ I love nautical
+ I love fair isle
+ I love to feel feminine and “pulled together” in my clothes
+ I love a slightly vintage feel – often in the form of shoes or jewelry
+ I love cozy
And well, that pretty much sums me up! Just taking the time to really go through and edit, edit, and re-edit my closet – then thinking about how each and every outfit I wear makes me feel, has helped me to finally find the soul of my style. And now? I can’t wait to get dressed everyday! And when I go shopping, it’s a much more focused and successful experience.
No more fashion identity crisis for me! I have found my look. The clothes I feel utterly and completely at home in. *cue the song “At Last”*
What about you? Do you feel like your closet is a cohesive medley of who you are? Can you mix and match your pieces endlessly? Or do you feel like what is staring back at you is just a hodgepodge of different stages of your life, lots of great sale finds, and things that don’t make you smile when you put them on and look in the mirror?
Well, keep an eye out for these “Soul of Your Style” posts where I’ll share more about finding MY style soul, and hopefully, help you find yours along the way!